11 ways you can help a friend with a terminally ill parent (2022)

I can still vividly remember the moment my mum first told me my dad was sick - I was standing in the media office at my university, editing the travel pages for the student newspaper. I was feeling really pleased because I had found the perfect sized photo of Hong Kong to fit the gap on the page and I looked down and saw my phone was ringing. I’m not going to pretend I’m psychic, and as clichéd as it sounds, in that moment, I just knew something bad was going to happen. Why else would my mum be calling me at 2pm on a Friday?

The next few days were a blur of medical scans, fuzzy grey masses and twisting hospital corridors. When my family emerged the other side, as dazed as if we’d been hit by a truck, we knew it was time to start telling people. This is what I’ve learnt since…

1. It might take us a while to bring it up, but it’s nothing personal and no assessment on the importance of our friendship. My closest friends already knew what had happened ­— they had been the ones to scrape me off the floor when I heard — but most didn’t, and this was the hardest part. Finding a way to slip it into conversation was tricky. “Hi, do you mind if we don’t make small talk about the colour you’re painting your flat? My dad has cancer and I can’t think about anything else” is hardly the most tactful way to bring it up.

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2. Don’t disappear. When you don’t know what to say, it can be easier to just say nothing at all. I get it. I wish it wasn’t happening either and I wish I could disappear too, but I can’t and if you’re a friend you shouldn’t either. I can only speak from experience, but grief makes you feel like you are standing alone in a black cloud whilst everyone around you continues on with their lives, unable to see that everything has suddenly gone monochrome. You can’t understand why the world hasn’t stopped spinning, and seeing everyone carry on as normal is as painful as a thousand tiny paper cuts.

3. Texts, emails, phone calls - any communication is better than no communication. Check in and keep checking in. Saying ‘call me if you need anything’ is all well and good, but chances are they won’t, because they’ll be too embarrassed to ask for help when they need it the most.

4. When you do talk to them, don’t be afraid to ask how they, and their family, are doing. Cancer is a horrible topic of conversation, so it’s understandable that it’d be pretty high on the list of things to avoid chatting about over coffee. But when a relative has cancer, sometimes it can be all you want to talk about. So don’t shy away from it. It’s more hurtful when people ask about everything else under the sun — “How’s your job? Your flat? Your new spider plant?” — because they’re too awkward to say, “Hey, how’s your dad?”

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5. But sometimes all we want is someone to be silent with. Yes, I know that sounds perverse, but hear me out. Cancer can be a long slog — months of appointments, weeks of chemo, and talking about it all the time would be exhausting. Sometimes you just don’t want to answer ‘How is your dad doing?’ for the eighth time that day. So if they say they don’t want to talk about it, don’t push them. Try changing the conversation to take their mind off things, or just be there to watch a movie with them.

6. Be careful what you do say. It’s understandable to try and empathise, but sometimes the most well meaning of phrases can come across as crass and insensitive. Don’t compare this to the time your dog died (I feel like this should go without saying, but you’d be surprised). Don’t tell them about your uncle who had a similar cancer (particularly not if they then died) and don’t try and compare your grief to theirs. Even if you know the person, don’t make this about you. Don’t bring up the past like it makes up for what is happening now — “they had a good life” and “they were a good age” doesn’t make it any better. It is always too young to lose someone you love.

7. “He’s a fighter” and “he’ll beat it” can be just as difficult to stomach. Of course he’s a fighter, but when it’s a terminal illness, phrases like this entirely miss the point, no matter how well intentioned. Herbal remedies are also not a helpful suggestion. I kid you not, someone told my mother — with a straight face — “Well, have you tried baking soda?” We still aren’t sure whether she meant for my dad to ingest it or bathe in it.

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8. Other clichés to avoid: cards with flowers on them and anything that has ‘with sympathy’ in a curly golden font. You’d be surprised how many people rely on things like this when they just don’t know what to say, but it can lack that personal touch. It reached a point where I would play “sympathy card bingo” with the envelopes flooding through the door. Leave your sad eyes at the door too — I know this is hard, but I don’t need to see it written all over your face.

9. Try not to take the mood swings personally. I probably owe my friends an apology for the extreme mood swings I have had over the past three months; from angry, to depressed, to manically high. But true friends will get that is a natural part of the grieving process.

10. But, there is no one size fits all answer. Truly there is no phrase book or ‘how to guide’ when it comes to coping with cancer and there is nothing that can be said that will make it okay. The best thing to do is be understanding.

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11. Above all, if you really don’t know what to say, baked goods and a shoulder to cry on are a pretty solid fail safe.

Adrienne Betteley, Specialist End of Life Advisor at Macmillan Cancer Support also has some words of advice:

“When a friend has a terminally ill relative, it can feel like their whole world has collapsed. They may feel overwhelmed with feelings of shock, anger, sadness, and guilt and it can be hard to know how to help them through these dark times. You could encourage them to talk about their feelings and remind them they may already be grieving for the person they are going to lose. Some days they may feel so sad that they can think of nothing else but their ill relative. Other days they may feel they can function normally and may not think about that person much. They shouldn’t feel guilty about this or that they must be sad all the time. It’s OK if they want to do normal things – spend time with friends, watch a film, or enjoy a meal.
“You could encourage your friend to write down their feelings in a diary or help them with practical tasks. Can you make them dinner or take them to see their family? Do encourage them to get professional help too. They may want to join a support group or speak to a counsellor. Keep an eye on your friend and if they are neglecting themselves or experiencing physical symptoms like loss of appetite, hair loss, skin problems or they are showing signs of depression or anxiety, you should encourage them to see their GP. Macmillan has a range of ways to help people whose relatives have cancer including a website with information a helpline staffed by nurses. You can also download Macmillan’s booklets After someone dies: coping with bereavement or End of Life: A Guide here.”

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What to say to a friend whose parent is terminally ill? ›

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  • “I'm sorry for what you're going through” ...
  • “Go get some fresh air” ...
  • “Would you like some company?”
Jun 7, 2022

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1. The do's:
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  3. Find your own way to express your love. ...
  4. Listen. ...
  5. Acknowledge just how bad it really is. ...
  6. Offer to connect them to people going through something similar, if you do know anyone. ...
  7. Give little and often. ...
  8. Prepare for the worst.
Jan 26, 2018

What to do for a friend whose parent has cancer? ›

Try not to:
  • Say you know how they feel – we can't ever know exactly how someone with cancer feels.
  • Tell them to 'be strong' or 'be positive' – it puts pressure on them to behave a certain way.
  • Take things personally if they seem angry or upset or don't want to talk.
  • Offer advice that they haven't asked for.

What do you say to a friend whose parent has cancer? ›

Here are some ideas:
  1. "I'm not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care".
  2. "I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this".
  3. "How are you doing?"
  4. "If you would like to talk about it, I'm here".
  5. "Please let me know how I can help".
  6. "I'll keep you in my thoughts".
Jun 1, 2021

What to say to a friend whose family member is dying? ›

The best things to say when someone dies
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
  • You are in our thoughts and prayers.
  • They will be so missed.
  • I'm very sorry to hear this tragic news.
  • I'm shocked and saddened by this devastating news.
  • I can't imagine how you must feel right now.
  • If you want to talk, I'm here at any time.
May 19, 2022

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If you're supporting someone, you might find some of their ideas useful.
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  2. Listen rather than talk. ...
  3. Let them express their emotions. ...
  4. Be specific. ...
  5. Be patient. ...
  6. Suggest an activity.
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May 15, 2022

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How can you Support a Friend in this Situation?
  1. Say something; don't just ignore their situation;
  2. Ask how they're doing;
  3. Ask about their loved one;
  4. Be a good listener;
  5. Ask about their feelings;
  6. Just sit with them;
  7. Share your feelings;
  8. Let them feel sad and scared—don't try to “just be positive;”

What do you say to someone when their parent is dying? ›

At the end of the day, something as simple as “I'm so sorry for your loss” or “I'm so sad for you and your family, please accept my deepest condolences” is always appropriate. But you might want to offer something a little deeper than that, especially if you are close to the bereaved.

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Appropriate Message to Say to Someone With Family in Hospice
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  • Tell me how you're doing. ...
  • How is your family member doing? ...
  • I am available to help and support you. ...
  • What can we do together to give you some relief? ...
  • Why has your loved one given up? ...
  • It's going to be OK.
Jun 30, 2022

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At the end of the day, something as simple as “I'm so sorry for your loss” or “I'm so sad for you and your family, please accept my deepest condolences” is always appropriate. But you might want to offer something a little deeper than that, especially if you are close to the bereaved.

Most die hard Jennifer Aniston fans will know the actress has had '11 11' inked on her wrist for some time.. I’m not going to pretend I’m psychic, and as clichéd as it sounds, in that moment, I just knew something bad was going to happen.. Why else would my mum be calling me at 2pm on a Friday?. 🌙 Makes sense that the entire Universe would be in ✨🌎✨ alignment with LOVE on your birthday!. Sometimes you just don’t want to answer ‘How is your dad doing?’ for the eighth time that day.. So if they say they don’t want to talk about it, don’t push them.. Even if you know the person, don’t make this about you.. The best thing to do is be understanding.. You could encourage them to talk about their feelings and remind them they may already be grieving for the person they are going to lose.

Sometimes you just don’t want to answer ‘How is your dad doing?’ for the eighth time that day.. So if they say they don’t want to talk about it, don’t push them.. Even if you know the person, don’t make this about you.. You could encourage them to talk about their feelings and remind them they may already be grieving for the person they are going to lose.. Some days they may feel so sad that they can think of nothing else but their ill relative.

When a person you love deeply is slipping away, it is a struggle to not feel like you are dying right along with them.. When they finally shared her diagnosis, I was thrust into a dizzying world where I struggled to understand how to be a loving and supportive daughter to my nervous and disoriented mom and my terrified and heartbroken dad, while simultaneously keeping up with my 50-hour-per-week job and raising my three kids under 4.. As the reality of Mom’s condition sunk in, my life became a balance between wanting to know every detail of each misfiring neuron and being too scared to Google even the most basic information about Alzheimer’s Disease because the concept of prognosis speaks in percentages and odds.. So I wrote the list below, in hopes that someone who loves someone who loves someone with Alzheimer’s or non-Alzheimer’s dementia would read it and gain insight as to how to best support the person s/he loves.. I feel like I could somehow save her life, if only I’d bother to learn the technical reason she can’t say simple words or remember our conversation from three minutes ago.. I appreciate getting asked this by loved ones who know I’m in a grieved state about my mom because it also allows me to vent about work or my kids or the woman with 16 items in the express check-out line with whom I’m still irrationally angry.. I sometimes feel selfish for being overwhelmed with the stressful or sad parts of my life which are difficult, separate from my Mom’s condition.. One of my BFF’s, when someone is in pain asks, “What can I do to make you feel supported?” It may sound cheesy, but it’s genuinely the best thing you can ask a person who feels like they’re dying of a broken heart.. Some days I might answer, “Nothing, I’m feeling okay in this moment.” Some days I might ask you to pick up my dry cleaning because between meeting my parents at a neurology appointment, buying Christmas gifts for my three kids’ teachers, and sitting in my car in a deserted parking lot, sobbing to LeAnne Rimes’ “Please Remember,” it’s the one errand I can’t pull off.. And while I struggle to figure out how to be the daughter she needs (because I will never be as perfect as the daughter she deserves), I love deeply the friends and family who are holding me up as I hold her.

Offering words of support and encouragement for your friend during this time is as simple as letting your friend know that you care and that you're there.. “I’m thinking of you” If you're wondering how to make someone’s day a little bit easier, consider letting your friend know that you're thinking of her by hiring a weekly maid service.. “I love you” If you aren't able to be there in person to support your friend, you can still send love from far away .. “Take time for yourself” The last thing your friend may have on her mind is taking time out for a little self-care.. “I’m sorry for what you’re going through” One way of supporting your friend is by telling her that you're sorry for what she’s going through, sorry that her loved one is suffering and sorry for the pain and suffering the family is feeling.. “Would you like some company?” Taking the time out of your day to visit with your friend who’s caring for a dying parent will show her that you care and are there to support her.. Talk to your friend about her parent's religious and spiritual beliefs so you can offer the appropriate prayer and spiritual support.. Offer to place a few phone calls on your friend’s behalf to gather information for when the time comes.. Don’t just tell your friend that you want to be there for him — actually take the time to do it.. Your friend may have a difficult time dealing with his grief and may be in desperate need of the respite you’re offering.

When a friend or loved one is dealing with a terminal illness, we want to be there in person to provide comfort.. So, how you can virtually support a terminally ill friend?. Having a terminal illness can be especially isolating; therefore, you may want to reconnect your friend with the outside world.. In the article below, we will discuss in detail the steps you can take to emotionally help a terminally ill friend when you are far apart.. Set a Date and a Time to Check-in With Your Friend Regularly Prepare yourself to be there for your friend with a clear heart and mind, listening without barriers or giving advice.. Communicate to your terminally ill friend that you understand that illness is a lonely journey, but your support is unwavering and will be there as long as needed.. You may hope that your friend learns to live as fully as possible while accepting the fact that they are terminally ill.. Maybe your friend is an animal lover or a keen hobbyist, in these times it might be a good idea to remind your friend of the aspects of everyday life that they enjoy.. Ideally, wherever your friend is, they have some caring people nearby, whether friends, neighbors, or colleagues.

One of the most important things you can do to support a friend who’s lost a parent is understanding their grief and giving them the time and space they need to process their loss without abandoning your support or friendship in one of their most significant times of need.. When a parent dies, most adult children tend to make the final arrangements for their deceased parent despite having another surviving parent.. For some, the isolating feeling of not having anyone to talk to or share in the grief and sadness that follows a parent's death can be challenging.. You can support your loved one through the initial stages of grief by carving out some time each day to show up and offer a shoulder to cry on or to listen to them talk about what their parent's death means to them.. After several months passing by after the death of a parent, you can expect that your loved one is just barely beginning to adjust to their loss.. One of those reasons for the grief process being delayed is that the whirlwind of activity taking place following the death of a loved one may take away from being able to process their loss for several weeks or months after they’ve died.. You can help a loved one who's feeling stuck in their grief by sharing in their loss, listening to them, and offering guidance where appropriate.. Some shared grief reactions in those who’ve suffered the death of a parent may be:. During the first few months following the death of a parent, your loved one may need some more care, love, and support to get them through some of the more challenging days ahead.. Recognizing the signs and symptoms of suffering in your loved one is crucial for lending support to them after a significant amount of time has passed since their parent’s death.. They may not yet understand the reasons leading up to their parent’s death or may blame themselves for not having done enough to help their parent.. Finding an online grief support group to join may help them process their grief by talking about their loss with others with shared experiences.. Professional grief counseling or therapy is another way to support a loved one who is still grappling with severe symptoms of grief such as anger or depression.. Even children who’ve suffered through the death of the same parent will respond differently since everyone’s relationship to their parent is different.. A grief therapist will help bereaved individuals process their grief in healthy ways to find closure and healing as they work through their loss.

Everyone feels anxiety when someone is terminally ill.. Children feel this anxiety, too.. It helps to encourage the child to talk about the person who is sick.. Feel they don’t need help. Teenagers need adults to be with them when they are grieving.. The box may then be filled with photos,. keepsakes, poems, letters, or other items that help the child remember the loved one.

As a professional caregiver , your role is to not only provide care for your terminal patient, but to provide support to their family members and family caregivers as well.. It will be your role to educate family members and family caregivers about what end-of-life care is and what their new role is in that care.. And you will be providing emotional support to family members from the moment their loved one enters end-of-life care to even after their loved one has passed away.. We will go more into specifics about educating family members and caregivers and how to provide emotional support, but let’s take a look first at some of the general strategies you can use to guide family members through this process.. For Family Caregivers: Round-the-clock care can leave many family caregivers feeling isolated, stressed, angry and sad, among other emotions.. As a professional caregiver, providing emotional support to family members can help them understand what they are feeling and why they are feeling it–even that it is okay to feel those emotions.

Ask questions "Don't try to be a mind reader," says Liz O'Donnell, whose mother died of ovarian cancer and whose father is battling Alzheimer's .. Michelle Monroe Morton, whose best friend has been battling brain cancer for four years, says, "Don't tell them they should or shouldn't feel a certain way.. "Don't immediately talk about funeral arrangements if they have two years to live, but don't wait until their illness progresses so far along that they can't be part of the decisions," says Lavin.. Jan Berlin, PhD, who lost his wife to brain cancer and founded Heart to Heart, a caregiver support program at the Tower Cancer Research Foundation in Beverly Hills, learned that "living life to its fullest" means something different for everyone.. "You don't want to spend your valuable time telling people the same thing over and over," she says.. "Often people don't want to touch those who look ill, but patients crave human contact," says VJ Sleight, who has battled cancer twice herself and is a hospice volunteer.. "Don't do anything you wouldn't do if they were coherent and part of the conversation.". Don't stay away "I wish people hadn't stayed away or avoided calling because they thought they were intruding," says Tronstein, who lost her father to lung cancer just six weeks after he was diagnosed.

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are great ways to celebrate the people who brought you into the world.. But while many are off brunching and showing up at their parent’s doorsteps with flowers on these two family-centric holidays, others may be curled up on the couch feeling the pain of having lost their parent.. Here are some ways in which you can help support your friends on what may be a painful holiday for them:. Once you’ve lost a parent, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day will never be the same.. She suggested sitting in silence and just being present with your grieving friend.. That’s one of the most wonderful gifts you can give,” she explained.. “When you’re in a place of grieving, especially during holidays, you feel like no one could possibly understand what you’re going through.. However, sometimes its necessary to feel the grief.. “If you have a friend going through this pain, let them feel sad.. With any grief reaction, it is helpful for people to spend some time letting themselves experience the grief,” Benton said.. “For me, just getting invited to do something with a friend on Mother’s Day is really nice,” said Thomas Giordonello, a 29-year-old account executive in Garrison, New York, who lost his mother in 2013.. “Remind them that their sadness is only temporary, and there are plenty of reasons that life is good, despite the losses we experience.”. Before making suggestions on what the two of you can do together, it can be beneficial to ask your friend how they want to spend the day.

If the illness is terminal, it’s important to talk about death and plan for the end of life.. When someone has a serious illness, there are many losses to grieve long before the person becomes terminally ill—for the person who is dying as well as for their family and friends.. Making Time to Say Goodbye Although painful in so many ways, a terminal illness offers you time to say “I love you,” to share your appreciation, and to make amends when necessary.. Talking about death is often difficult.. Let your loved one end conversations that feel too difficult.. Discuss wishes for end-of-life medical care with family members.. Hospice staff can administer pain medications, provide nursing care, and offer emotional support.

The friend I didn’t know how to be UNTIL I lost my dad in October 2012.. As much as the pain was too hard to bear, I knew that I was learning.. If you are the friend, show up and just do.. But what I learned after I joined “The Club” is that the food comes fast and furious in those first few days.. Don’t Send Flowers: This is kind of a touchy one, I know, but hear me out.. They are a tangible way to say “your parent made a beautiful mark on this planet” and “when I think of your father, I think of peace in the form of a lily.” But, consider that the family will have to spend a lot of time throwing the arrangements away and it will be almost like a second death: when the flowers are gone, reality really sets in.. Know Your Friend: When you want to honor your friend’s loss, a lot of times, doing something that you know he or she will “hear” means the world.. Being alone in my head during my runs became too hard and my running shoes remained empty.. My friend’s dad “fathered” me and “heard” my grief.

As your friend navigates the many difficult emotions that grief can bring, it is important to have a general understanding of grief.. Your natural tendency may be to try to make your friend feel better, but in a situation such as grief, no amount of talking will help.. Your grieving friend only needs your loving support and presence.. If your friend feels you are trying to fix them or their feelings, they may start to view themselves as a problem, which may reduce their comfort in confiding in you and expressing their feelings openly.. People may unintentionally diminish a loved one’s grief by saying, “You’ll get over it soon,” and “You’ll be fine.” The best way to honor someone’s true feelings and grief experiences is to ask how they feel and simply listen.. Commenting on physical appearance is a common practice, but during your friend’s grief, even the most well-intentioned remark can feel harmful.. When a friend or loved one is grieving, it can feel compelling to share your religious or spiritual beliefs with them as a means of helping them feel better.

When you got the call that your friend's parent died, you most likely jumped into action at the ready.. You were sure that you'd know exactly what to do when a friend's parent dies, as you’ve been friends for years, after all.. Below are some tips that might help you overcome being at a loss when you're trying to help your friend through their grief.. Talking to your friend about the loss of their parent shouldn’t put added stress on you.. When your friend's grieving the loss of theirs, it’s understood that you want to be there for them.. Is now a good time to stop by?” “I’m so sorry for your loss, friend.. When talking to your friend about their loss, they may not be fully present with the conversation.. A wonderful way of showing your love and support to your friend is to plan and host a memorial service in their parent's honor.. These gifts range from sending flowers to the funeral home, financial gifts in honor of the person who died, to memorial plaques engraved with dates of birth and death.. Losing a parent can leave your friend feeling deep despair and sorrow.. Don't make the mistake of telling your friend that you know how they feel, or that their parent’s in a better place.. You might've already thought about ways in which to help your friend but are unsure of how to bring it up.. That's what friends are for in a time of need.. Your friend is likely going through a very difficult time after suffering the loss of their parent.

Even if our parents leave us after a long, happy, painless life, and not after a diagnosis or an accident or a struggle, we are never ready for the intensity of the grief.. Years to be able to go days without remembering the pain of losing her.. A girl a few grades above me I’d never talked to wrote me a note when my mom died, giving me tips about how she dealt with her own mother’s loss.. A friend of my mom’s arranged for a cleaning service to stop by our house monthly for a year after my mom’s death.. A week after my mom’s funeral, I was fielding tearful calls from a friend of my mom who wanted to talk about her loss.. I take the days off and I do things she would have loved.. They are days my grief needs space to unfurl.. Don’t say things like “Everything happens for a reason” or “You’ll feel better soon.” Those kind of statements make it seem like your friend’s grief isn’t valid, like it’s taking too long or hurting too much.

Jenny Mosier, co-founder and executive director of Michael Mosier Defeat DIPG Foundation and mother to 6-year-old Michael Mosier who fought hard against the terminal pediatric brain cancer DIPG (Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Glioma), gives us tips on how to best support someone with a terminally ill child.. Most families feel that facing a serious illness with a child is simply different than facing it with an older person.. Also, when families are coming to terms with their child's illness, it's painful to hear of others who have died from similar illnesses.. "It may create a situation where a parent feels he/she needs to respond to set you straight and give you the facts of what his/her child is facing," says Jenny.. Like many parents of terminally ill children, Jenny now works endlessly to raise awareness and funds for research to prevent other children from dying and parents from experiencing the same loss.. Many parents of terminally ill children have created similar foundations or support specific organizations focused on research or helping families.. There are many ways to give to a family with a terminally ill child and all will be appreciated.. It is better to try awkwardly than to ignore and further isolate a family experiencing the terminal illness or death of a child.

Here, people who address this reality every day — whether they’re psychologists, chaplains or cancer patients — share advice on what helps, and what doesn’t.. Suzanne Maxey, a former hospice nurse who is now battling an aggressive breast cancer, says don't tell someone who is ill that they’ll “beat it.” “That's ridiculous,” she says.. And I don't want to hear about your mother or close friend with stage one breast cancer who is now fine.. But “it’s a mistake to assume that someone shares your spiritual beliefs,” says Jennifer FitzPatrick, a professor of gerontology at Johns Hopkins University and author of Cruising Through Caregiving: Reducing the Stress of Caring for Your Loved One.. “We don’t want to just talk cancer, cancer, cancer!” says Maxey.. So, by all means invite someone who’s sick out to dinner or to catch a showing of a new movie.. Just remember to ask if you can pick them up and drive.. Your friend or loved one may feel comfort just being in the same room with you, knowing you are there for them.

"The two of you may start to think, 'What are we going to talk about if we can't talk about how we are raising our kids?'. More often than not, moms whose kids won't eat or nap (or whatever the problem of the day is) aren't looking for advice so much as someone to listen.. Those relationships have value beyond just being mom friends," says Dr. Newman.. Research backs up the idea that contrary parenting styles can both work.. Plus, in the end, isn't seeing things differently better than not seeing each other at all?

If you don’t know what to say to heartbroken parents after the loss of a child it’s not because there’s something wrong with you!. Most of us were not taught how to help grievers.. Talking about the death of a loved one can be taboo too.. Remember, it can be painful for grievers to talk about their loss.. Allow them to feel listened to and safe, even if you feel uncomfortable.. Is it okay to talk about my own child who died or other losses?. Is it okay to talk about the child who died?. It’s common to think that it’s too painful for bereaved parents to talk about their child who died, so well meaning friends and family often avoid the subject.. Grieving parents may think that their child has been forgotten or that no one cares, so they should feel better by now.. They may wonder, “Why don’t I feel better already?”.. It’s the actions we take within time that allow us to heal after a loss.. One thing that’s important to remember is that a mother or father who has experienced the heartbreak of losing a child might be afraid to do Grief Recovery.. So by all means, feel free to direct your grieving friends and loved ones to The Grief Recovery Method where they will find the resources they need to heal their broken hearts.

Symptoms vary from person to person, but for Daisy it involved low muscle tone, joint hypermobility and severe learning disability.. We attracted curious stares everywhere we went: Lenny wanted only to perch on adult shoulders or run off at dazzling speed, Daisy needed a specialist pushchair, and Rosie dressed bizarrely and would often appear to be in her own imaginary world.. She was funny, quick-witted and loved to chat: “Daisy doesn’t walk yet because she has Kabuki syndrome.. Support your friend to advocate for her child.. Having a friend who knows my child come along to a difficult meeting to support me is invaluable.. A preprepared goody bag can be the difference between your friend being able to stay at the celebration or having to leave early with a distressed child.

Coming from one of those moms, here are eight ways to support your friend that has a hospitalized child.. If you are the friend in this equation, there are some things that you can do during what is quite possibly the most trying time of your friend’s life.. If your friend doesn’t respond it could be that there is just too much going on, they read and mentally responded to your text (I do that even when my kid’s not in the hospital – ha!. When you visit, bring a $15 gift card to Chipotle or Subway etc… It doesn’t seem like much now but they will use it at some point and they will be grateful for it when they do.. By staying silent you are giving them the chance to fully process their answer and your friend, whether they realize it or not, needs to talk and for you to listen.. Just one word of caution — please do not say that you understand how they feel unless you really and truly do.. Throw up some banners and balloons… after a stay in the hospital it is so exciting not only to be coming home, but to walk into a celebration of being home!. You don’t have to talk – heck you could even bring your laptop to get some work done – the point is that you’re there.. Your friend feels scared, they feel helpless, they feel bored, but at least they don’t feel alone too.. After your friend’s family is home from the hospital, chances are there will be future checkups and tests.. Having a hospitalized child is never easy, but it is so much easier when you have the right friends to help get you through.

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